Back to the Beginning

There are so many things I find wrong with this website, that rather than comment on the absurd thoughts of this man, who will probably remain a virgin for the rest of his life- unless married to his fantasy mail-order bride.

What makes a good wife: according to Goodwife.com:

• Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have be thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they get home and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed.
• Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you’ll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.
• Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
• Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives. Run a dustcloth over the tables.
• During the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering to his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
• Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Encourage the children to be quiet.
• Be happy to see him.
• Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.
• Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
• Don’t greet him with complaints and problems.
• Don’t complain if he’s late for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through at work.
• Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or lie him down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.
• Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.
• Don’t ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.
• A good wife always knows her place.

There has been, and probably always will be, endless debate over what is a good wife. There is this article, supposedly from a May 1955 Housekeeping Monthly magazine, that speaks directly to this question. There are other sources as well that speak on the issue. One is from Aristotle, another is this one about “Do men really want a wife like June Cleaver.” They bring up some very good points. It is one of those questions that heats up each side of the debate and truly has a different answer for each man. What do you want in a wife? Beauty? Brains? Charm? Home and family oriented? Strong willed? Independent? Docile? If you write out a list of the ten things that you must have in your life partner what would they be? Only you can decide the answers to this question.

We also have the question of a Western woman vs. a Foreign woman. This is commonly refered to as a Mail Order Bride or MOB. While I am sure that it would take a lot of stamps to ship a Mail Order Bride I think you might have a problem with customs! Which would you like? Many men have found exactly what they desired in a woman from another country. How did they do this and what are the pitfalls involved in this process? This is where Goodwife.com can help out. This site along with our sister sites Planet Love and Russian Women Discussion are all about the search for this woman and how to have a happy and successful and long lasting marrige to a foreign woman. Are there any good women left in the West? Sure there are. Are they easy to find? Not on your life!

We, as men, are more and more wanting to step back from the types of women we meet now. With many women taking on the “me first” feminist agenda and the man continuing to take a back seat to her desire for power and control many men are turned off by this and look back to having a more traditional woman as our partner. What does that mean? That is one hell of a good question.

Regardless of the origin or reality of the article itself it has come into focus over the last couple of years regarding the basic premise of the content. This is especially true when it comes to Western men seeking to find a wife from a foreign country (you know, that Mail Order Bride thing again). There are all sorts of reasons for this and as many fantasies as well. The truth of both of these is a varied as the men involved in the search to find a good wife and the women involved in the search to find a good husband.

So, what do we as men want in a woman, partner, friend, and wife? Do we want her to “fix us” after we are married? If we were good enough to marry in the first place then what is this bix fixation (pun intended) on fixing us? Do we want her to stop taking care of herself after we are married? (No need to bother looking good now right, I’ve already got him so I can quit trying to look my best and I can gain all the weight I want.) Do we want her to be the boss? Do we want her to put her career first? Do we want to come home to a bag of delivery food? Do we want to change everything about us that made us who we are? Do we want to spend our evenings and weekends taking the latest “relationship test” from some magazine to find out how inadequate we are? If you answered “yes” to any of this then you are in the wrong place. Go to Oprah.com or Dr.Phil.com and you will be much happier.

tumblrbot asked: WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE INANIMATE OBJECT?

Probably anything that allows me to communicate and be animated: computer, phone, etc. Is that sad?

Long ago, I discovered that I believe in Zodiacs, and astrology. I think it’s CRAZY how it is possible to generalise a group of strangers by their birthday months, and YEARS, yet, i believe it whole-heartedly. 

so today, in a desperate attempt to rationalise my feelings about my emotions and the state of my relationships with people, I’ve found the old, Chinese Zodiac has all of my answers.

THE SHEEP

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Let them fly, Let them Wave

Mirrors show you that you’ll never be alone, 

The mask you wear begins to take hold 

You become all the lies that you sold

There’s this boy that know one knows, ‘cause you lock him inside

But when his final truth is told, his colors will wave, and his flag with fly

This kid has so much heart it could fill a hole

So much passion for his craft it would fill your soul

But his secret starts to eat away at everything he has

So he wakes up and tells the truth to 

Take a look into one of my styles of writing lyrics:

Ask the basic questions:

1. Who, What, Where, When, Why & How.

2. Answer Each Question: one question = verse

3. Within each verse, ask the questions again= each sub answer equals your strophe content :)

Some kind of Truth:

What damage do your lies do?

Who? You! The liar. The master of make believe. 

What? Lie like it’s your job. Do they pay you for every lie, or per tear? Or how about for every time a heart breaks? What you do is an art- so cunning and smooth. You’ve perfected your little trick, and I’m jealous.

Chorus:

Who? The Lies

What? It’s some kind of truth, like an actor on a stage, or a Sheppard to his flock.

Where? From every direction they come from your mouth, with such ease that they can’t be untrue.

Who? They.

What? Follow you like gentle lambs to the slaughter.

How? With words like a stream, that flow and weave.

What do I Want?

Who? Me.

What? Teach me how to be like you, to lie and cheat and steal. I shall not weave a tangled web with words that slither back and forth, through a jungle of wants and want-not’s.  So sharp and free they’ll come to my head that even I will believe. 

Why? The truth never works. It ignites sparks whose embers never stifle. If only I could be like you.